Today it is a mother’s day in Poland, and as I am a mother and I am Polish, I thought of treating myself by giving the beginning to this blog I’ve been thinking about for quite some time now…
Speaking about parenting, who hasn’t seen yet that BBC interview about South Korea with kids crushing it?
The kids entered the room whilst their daddy was busy making a live TV appearance. Other than noticing the kids, has anyone noticed that the dad was filming while, essentially, working from home? He had that flexibility as he had his wife taking care of the children (even thought it din’t quite go according to the plan) whilst he was being filmed.
I do not know the background story, but it all looks very familiar to me- me and my husband swapping the caring duties between ourselves so the other one can fulfil the work and personal commitments. I am also very familiar with the kids entering the room I would rather them not to (for various reasons, not necessary for needing to give a BBC live interview), just as in the below example. This is when they decided to check on what’s mummy up to whilst I was preparing a video for my work (I had the luxury of this not being a live streaming though):
My personal experience tells me that without the support of my husband, I would have struggled in managing the work, family and personal commitments. Knowing that his employer shows an understanding to the family life interruptions is as important to me, as knowing that so does mine. However, the CIPD report “Labour Market Outlook “from December 2016 found that employers create further barriers to balancing work and care commitments through lack of additional provisions. “For instance, just 30% of respondents said their organisation proactively promotes flexible working options to employees who have caring responsibilities, and only 11% say they have a childcare policy covering the range of support available to working parents”.
Quickly, a remake of the interrupted interview has been made. This time it was a mother version who dealt with the situation in a slightly different manner:
It seemed that the implied message was that working mums are better than fathers at managing work and family life, multitasking and having it all under control . I won’t be debating this topic, especially after sharing the appreciation to the shared caring responsibilities. However, it is interesting, how different we, females, can be when it comes to affronting challenges at work and in the motherhood.
When we become first time mothers- without any prior experience nor qualification in the matter- we just do it. Each day we take on the everyday challenges and deal with them. We seek advise when we need to, and say- no, thank you- if we don’t. We listen to the intuition when we feel like it, and we educate ourselves if we want to. Even if there are moments of self- doubt, we don’t stop moving on. However, we do not tend to execute the same approach at work. We often do not take on challenges in a fear of being “caught” of not knowing it all, or not being good enough. This phenomenon actually has a name and it is called an “impostor syndrome”.
Fully aware of its existence and having a full appreciation to my motherhood experiences, I take on this step of allowing myself to become vulnerable and confront my fears to see where this experiment can take me to when it comes to learning outcomes!
Happy Mother’s Day!